This subject is so highly searched on Youtube, some people just add it to their tags to jack for views. Admittedly that's how I found about about this Couples Category a couple of years ago. I fell down some crazy rabbit hole watching video after video....like so many other people and admittedly still watch videos though they seem less frequently post, less relevant to the actual topic and when they are relevant less interesting nowadays.
So, here I was chugging along minding my own business, staying in my lane, if you will, in my relationship only to find out it's been filed in a folder.....under "A" for AMBW.
I don't know what to make of it. Part of me is intrigued to be labeled in such a particular way and to be in relationship that has somehow become interesting simply because of the races we happen to be as a couple. It's made almost edearing. When we started dating I was completely oblivious to the trend. And the word (TREND) leads me to my other train of thought. I don't necessarily know if I feel comfortable defining my own relationship as AMBW because I don't know if it's necessary. I have so many categories I'm in already in this life and even my relationship had already been filed under "I" for Interracial and now I should add a subfolder too? Having a label within a label makes it seem trendy, fetish-y, fad-like and temporary.
I guess that I fear that it marginalizes a loving relationship and when you meet someone, that's really the main goal. And the last thing that should happen when you seek out love is to have a label make people believe that you are couple together for anything other than love. So it leads me to wonder if all this labeling can do more harm than good.
I remember a couple of summers ago my honey and I were walking into a supermarket and a woman spotted us and wanted to share her thoughts. She told us that she hadn't seen a coupling of our type before and basically applauded us for being together. We were polite but a little speechless because we don't think that much of it. And didn't think it necessary to have a round of applause for being two people who happen to love each other.
And now that we have a child some other funny things have come about. We moved into a new complex of buildings in Fall of last year. We just go about our business and don't know who of our unknown neighbors pay much attention to us but after having her it's funny to see how many people have been so curious of what a product of our combined DNA looks like. There are many that break their necks to get a peek of our little bundle in her stroller as we pass by. We've had neighbors who saw us together while I was pregnant and now they say, "Oh let me see! I've been dying to see what the baby looks like". The curiosity is pretty cute.Check the family photos here:
Baby & Family Photo session
How We Met
Once upon a time we were a happy little goofy couple stumbling our way through the introductions and awkward first date to puppy love and then gracefully (NOT) walking hand in hand in love to becoming a family.
Now the most popular question we get, as I'm sure most couples do, is how did we meet. While some people might be apprehensive to share this, with the landscape of dating so much I have no shame in saying that we meet online.
God that seems like forever ago now! But we'd checked each others profiles. I remember thinking he was pretty cute but knew that with my shy somewhat old fashioned self that if he didn't initiate, I would most likely just let it go. Luckily he did make the first "move", which online is a private message. We started to message each other and it was pretty clear that were different from each other but both liked each other and were excited to meet. So we didn't stretch out the online contact too long before we decided to meet. With my kooky schedule we decided to meet for coffee in the morning. We had a pretty awkward yet surprisingly long first date. I remember being so nervous I kept fiddling with my clothes and the paper on the table. While he noticed that must have had 4 glasses of water. Because I knew I was so nervous, I had planned to get to the restaurant first so I could get settled in and calmed and figured if I could see him come in I'd feel better.
Apparently I didn't get there early enough I arrived to the restaurant to see him already sitting there waiting for me. {{DAMN}} I wish I could remember everything we talked about but nerves got better of that memory. As the date ended, on a blustery day in February, I remember walking with him to the train station and he wasn't wearing a coat and he claimed he wasn't cold which given the temperature, was hard to believe. He admitted later to being cold that day. But once we arrived to the train station what surprised me most was him kissing me on our first date. I was pretty taken aback. I was chattering on through our goodbyes and he stepped in, put his hands around me and kissed me.
Our second date was harder to plan with my schedule and the snow storms at the time so when we finally met again for date two it was about 3 weeks later. Which normally could be the kiss of death but we worked around the time constraints. We went to the movies and he came to check 
out my job and hang with me there for a little bit. After a couple of months I became a nervous that things wouldn't work (A little bit of the past getting in the way) and started to back away. He was so sure that things would work between us that he was persistent through my fears and uncertainties. 
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